Social Security and Divorce

The complexities of Social Security retirement benefits make it a difficult topic to mediate. It is an exceedingly important source of income for retirees, especially divorced and even affluent retirees. However, Social Security and its place in a person’s retirement income plan are critical items for mediators to understand to achieve the elusive goal of fairness and equity. 

The maximum benefit in 2023 is $54,660 a year. Of course, most people don’t get the maximum. Still, as the benefit decreases, I find that it constitutes a greater percentage of income. And, Social Security retirement benefits are challenging to address in divorce settlement negotiations because State courts do not have jurisdiction over its allocation

For example, if Jack and Jill are retired, are both 66, each have a house of equal value (to simplify), $1.7M in their IRAs, and $300,000 in other liquid assets for a total of $2M, a 50-50 division leaving each party with $1M should be a fair division, right?

Maybe. But let’s first go over some Social Security background.

A Short History

The Social Security Act passed in 1935 included benefits for workers but not their spouses. At the time, women who did not work outside of the home could not qualify for Social Security retirement benefits. A sweeping series of amendments enacted in 1939 extended Social Security to spouses and minor children. Wives who had not earned a social security retirement benefit or whose retirement benefit was less than 50% of their husbands qualified for the first time.

Catching up with a changing society, another reform extended Social Security retirement benefits to divorced wives in cases when the divorce happened after a marriage longer than 20 years. Social Security replaced the word “wife” with the “word” in the 1970s, allowing husbands to collect retirement benefits on their ex-wives’ records .

Later, the length of marriage required to qualify for benefits after a divorce was reduced to 10 years. When SCOTUS legalized same-sex marriage in 2015, survivor and divorce benefits extended to same-sex couples .

This short history of Social Security shows how it has evolved. Ex-wives and ex-husbands can now all receive retirement benefits based on an ex’s work record. 

However, qualifying conditions must be met. The rules can be confusing and challenging to keep track of, especially for those who have had more than one marriage and divorce or those whose ex-spouse has died.

Benefits for Divorced People

When a divorced spouse claims their benefit at full retirement age or later, they will qualify to receive 50% of their ex-spouse’s Primary Insurance Amount (PIA), so long as they have not remarried before 60 years of age and their own benefit is less than 50% of their ex-spouse’s.

In Jack’s and Jill’s case, Jack’s PIA is $3,000 per month, and Jill does not qualify for a retirement benefit on her own record. She can file for her divorced-spouse benefit at her full retirement age of 66. She will qualify for 50% of Jack’s Primary Insurance Amount, $1,500, as her divorced-spouse benefit.

The earlier Jill claims her benefits, the less she will get, consistent with other Social Security retirement benefits. Conversely, Jill will receive more if she waits to claim. To maximize Social Security retirement benefits, you will typically need to delay them until 70 .

However, divorced people who claim on their ex-spouse’s record will not get more if they delay their benefits past full retirement age, 66 to 67 depending on the birth year.

Note that should Jill’s own benefit be more than 50% of Jack’s, she will receive her own Social Security retirement benefit. She will not also receive her divorced benefit!

Sometimes people wonder how the age difference with their ex-spouse can affect their benefits. The good news is that the ex-spouse’s age when they claim it is irrelevant. As long as Jill claims at Full Retirement Age, she will receive her maximum divorce benefit independently of the timing of Jack’s claim.

Who Qualifies?

A person who claims benefits based on a former spouse’s record must be single at the time . So unfair, you say? If Jill has remarried, generally, she could get 50% of her new husband’s benefits, or her own, if her own is greater than 50% of her new husband’s. So let’s continue with a single Jill.

Jack may be married or unmarried. It makes no difference. If Jack is (re)married, Jill and the current wife could both qualify for the 50% benefit from Jack’s record. 

Suppose Jill, who receives the 50% benefit, remarries. In that case, her 50% benefit from Jack’s record stops unless Jill’s new spouse also gets a divorced spouse benefit. That’s except if the remarriage occurs after age 60.

Jill’s marriage must have lasted ten years or longer to claim Social Security retirement benefits on Jack’s record. Because of that requirement, sometimes people who think of divorce will delay until ten years of marriage are achieved. For example, if you’ve been married for 9.5 years, it may be worth waiting another six months. And with the slow speed of divorce proceedings, that is entirely possible without trying too hard! 

Sometimes people are not sure when they got divorced. People often mark their court appearance date as the divorce date. In most states, however, the actual divorce date is later than the court appearance . For example, in Massachusetts it is 90 or 120 days after the court appearance depending on the filing type.

More Marriages and Divorces

People sometimes ask: what if you had two or more ten-year marriages?

Then, it can become complicated. Those who have divorced more than once from marriages of ten years or longer get the higher of the two divorced-spouse benefits, so long as they are currently unmarried.

For example, suppose that Sheryl was married to Patrick for 20 years and to John for 12 years. Sheryl has now divorced for the second time and has remained single for more than two years since her last divorce from John.

Patrick’s PIA is $3,200, and John’s PIA is $2,800. So let’s suppose that Sheryl’s retirement benefit, based on her own record, is $1,200. However, she is at Full Retirement Age (66 or 67, depending on the birth year).

When Sheryl files, she can receive $1,600, half of Patrick’s PIA, because it is higher than John’s $1,400. And, no, she cannot get both Patrick’s and John’s retirement benefits!

If Sheryl divorced less than two years before, she must wait until her last ex, Patrick, in this case, has filed for his benefit. In addition, the worker on whose record the retirement benefit is claimed, Patrick, must have reached 62 years of age.

Patrick’s filing status is irrelevant to Sheryl’s claim if they divorced more than two years before. So unless Sheryl tells him, Patrick will never know if his ex-spouse has claimed.

When Your Ex dies

Mike and Marie are 66 and have been married for more than ten years and divorced for more than two. Because Marie is single and not remarried, she qualifies for a divorced-spouse retirement benefit based on Mike’s record, whether or not Mike has filed. 

If Mike has passed away, Marie receives a divorced-spouse survivor benefit based on Mike’s record if she is currently unmarried or if she remarried after age 60. In addition, Marie’s benefit will be 100% of Mike’s Primary Insurance Amount (PIA), the amount that Mike would have received at Full Retirement Age. In the case of Mike dying, Marie’s retirement benefits are capped to full retirement age.

What if the same two people have married, divorced, remarried with each other, and divorced again? In that case, the length of the two marriages can be added together (including the time in between) to reach the ten years qualifying minimum. That is, if the remarriage happens before the end of the calendar year following the divorce!!

Say Mike and Marie were married for seven years, from May 2002 to August 2009. They remarried in December 2010 and re-divorced in November 2013 for three years. The total for the two marriages is ten years. Mike and Marie meet the 10-year requirement because their second marriage happened before the end of the calendar year after the first divorce. 

If, instead, Mike and Marie had remarried in January 2011, the ten-year clock would have been reset to zero. 

Pension Repercussions

When Jill applies for her divorced spouse’s retirement benefit, what if she also worked for an employer not participating in the Social Security system? For example, many state and municipal government employees are exempt from paying into the Social Security system . For instance, if Jill was a teacher for her town’s school system, she could qualify for a State pension. But, then, her divorced spouse’s Social Security benefit would be reduced by 2/3 of the amount of her pension because of the Government Pension Offset rule. As a result, Jill’s Social Security benefit may be zero, depending on the size of her pension.

How would that work? Jill currently receives a $3,000 monthly pension from a police department in Texas. She has divorced Jack after more than ten years of marriage. Jack’s PIA is $3,200. Jill’s divorced-spouse benefit of $1,600 would be reduced by $2,000 (2/3 of $3,000), which reduces the benefit amount to zero. She doesn’t get any Social Security.

If Jack dies, Jill becomes eligible for a divorced-spouse survivor benefit. After the GPO reduction she will receive $800 ($3,200 – $2,000 equals $1,200).

Suppose the spouse with the benefit also qualifies for a pension from an entity that doesn’t pay into social security. In that case, the Windfall Elimination Program kicks in. That reduces the spouse’s benefit payments, and the ex-spouse’s benefit adjusts downward as well.

What Does It All Mean?

As a reminder, Jack and Jill are retired and decided to divide their assets 50-50. Jack also benefits from a $3,000 Social Security PIA retirement benefit, and Jill has a divorced spouse benefit of $1,500. Jack opts to delay his Social Security until 70 when his benefit would increase to $4,081. Jill has no such option.

A common (but potentially dangerous) rule of thumb in retirement planning is that if a retiree begins retirement by taking a 4% distribution from assets and increases it annually with inflation, the retiree will not run out of assets in their lifetime (1).

As detailed in the table below, Jack and Jill may have divided their assets 50-50, which may look fair. However, Jill’s income will be 35% less than Jack’s.


Jill Difference
Assets $1,000,000 $1,000,000 0%
4% Income $40,000 $40,000 0%
Social Security $48,972 $18,000 -63%
Total Income $88,972 $58,000 -35%

Last Words

In the example, the difference between Jill’s and Jack’s total incomes comes to slightly more than $2,500 a month. Over a 20-year lifetime, it can easily add to more than $600,000. When you add COLA increases, the difference will be more than $875,000.

This is not a challenge that can be dealt with directly in litigation because the courts have no jurisdiction over Social Security. However, a couple mediating could potentially address the issue to achieve a more balanced retirement income for both and a more equitable settlement.

The example of Jack and Jill is simplified from cases we might run across. There may be other assets, such as a pension, a vacation home, and rental real estate. There may be child support and alimony. Maybe Jill qualifies for her own benefit. There may be an inheritance looming. Jack and Jill  may be further away from retirement. Their investment style may differ. 

Diverse circumstances will complicate the analysis. However, it is crucial for a couple and their mediator to understand the consequences of their decisions. That is so especially for women because they will need to stretch their assets to meet their longer statistical life expectancy .


  1. The 4% rule is widely used as a rule of thumb to estimate retirement income from assets. It was initiated in a 1996 study by Bill Bengen published in the Journal of Financial Planning. More recent revisions of the study imply that the safe withdrawal rule could be less than 4%. Other methods to plan retirement income may be more appropriate depending on the case.
  2. I have a series of handy flowcharts that can help guide mediators and clients through the decision complexities. Please ask for it at
Chris Chen CFP


certified divorce financial analyst, divofrce financial planning, divorce, retirement, retirement plan, retirement planning, social security

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